She came around....

And I am speechless. We went to Dylan's party yesterday, and several times I was left alone, sitting next to Mike's mom. I felt soo uneasy the whole time since there has been this huge elephant in the room with the whole ordeal of her not coming/being around us. I just knew that the topic was going to come up, (well it had already as I overheard her talking to other people, she just hadn't talked to me.) So...as the crowd was getting thin, she came and sat next to me and said how much she missed my kids. I looked at her and just said, "You need to come over. Even if it is for a half of an hour, 2x a month. They need you as a constant in their lives." She could only say how sick she has been for the past 3 weeks, (we hadn't heard this before) so I just said, "then call us, and we will understand. But when we call and leave you messages, and we don't hear from you, it really hurts us."

She then followed me out to my car cause I needed to take Kate out to feed her, and she dropped the question. "Am I still going to get to watch her?" Ugh. Double Ugh. I told her Mike needs to talk to her since he isn't wanting to take her anywhere in the mornings, and how my mom had offered...etc..

She came over later last night, and stayed for like 5 hours or so. It came down to her still really wanting to watch her, and Mike told her that he isn't thrilled about having to leave an hour earlier in the mornings, especially going the opposite direction from his job..and how my mom wants to do it since she wasn't around for Matthew..and she chimed in..."I'll watch her here! I can only do it on Mondays and Tuesdays, anyways." So, Mike said yes.

I then had to call my mom and say what had just happened. I feel like I hurt her that she is going to watch her on those days, and my mom will have her Wednesdays/Thursdays. So they each get her 2 days, but I feel like I have hurt my mom. She did tell me that she would have a hard time coming home from Seattle on Sundays after her car shows to be able to watch her, and I told her that now she won't have to worry about coming home that long stretch at night, and she can have her Mondays to drive. She seemed to appreciate that, but was sad at not getting Tuesdays. I think what will eventually happen is Mike's mom will soon get tired of having to drive here every week, and she may end up just doing it Monday's and that will be enough for her. At least that is what I am hoping.
What a stressful time, and a hard spot to be in. I just wanted things to go smoother than this...we should have had this figured out weeks ago. Hopefully we will see a change in Mike's mom, and she will really be able to enjoy the baby, while she is still a baby.